How to help someone with Alcoholism or depression

Hi everyone,

Someone asked me to a do a podcast on this topic, so here it is ๐Ÿ™‚

The podcast is structured in 2 parts, one is more to do with the person struggling him/herself, and what it might mean to help.  The second part is more practical things that you could actually do.

First half:

1.  It’s not always up to you to be able to help.  The person who needs help needs to be WILLING to be helped.  The age old saying, you can bring a horse to the water, isn’t a saying for nothing.

2.  What it actually means to be willing to help

3.  Why you need to take seriously.  Don’t pretend to know the answers, it can be very dangerous if you get it wrong.

Second half:

1.  Active listening

2.  Don’t make the problem bigger or smaller than it needs to be.

3.  Don’t mislabel things, but don’t underestimate the power in labelling things accurately.  Labelling is NOT bad, but mislabelling IS!!

4.  Don’t give medical advice – some people need anti depressants and some don’t.  If a person is depressed (and not drinking ;-)) and taking medication, maybe they just need to switch to different medication.  Get a good doctor, not all car mechanics are amazing and not all doctors are amazing.  BUT some are incredible ๐Ÿ™‚

5. If someone asks you for a specific favour, try to help them as directly as you can, as long as it doesn’t harm them, others or yourself.  They may be so troubled that they see no other way.  Your act of kindness could mean much more to them then you will ever know.

6.  AA specific, if you know someone suffering from alcoholism and can’t talk to them for some or other reason there is a group called al-anon, which is worth going to.

I hope you enjoy it ๐Ÿ™‚


3: “Just do something” nihilism, egoism and meaning

Hi everyone

In this podcast I discuss how I was struggling to break through from the feeling of doing nothing and feeling as though things were essentially void of any meaning.

I hope you find it helpful, as that is my overarching goal in every episode.

I also make these podcasts for my old self, which was being an active alcoholic, I wonder if these podcasts would’ve reached that person.


2: In Search of.life

Hi guys

Thanks heaps for the very sincere and positive feedback on my first podcast.

It’s inspired me to keep going.

This one is on:

* Anxiety

* Includes a really amazing visualisation, ย which morphed into a slightly different visualisation, that I can briefly explain in the next podcast if you like?

* an extract of my personality profile from understandmyself.com, maybe you can relate to the snippet, maybe not.

* This leads to the carnivore diet

I try to keep the pod casts to between 30-45 minutes, but I can really talk about some of these in much more detail (if you can bear it!)

I hope you like this one too, if yes, I already have the topics for the 3rd one in mind! ๐Ÿ˜€


My name is Evert and I am an alcoholic

The most powerful admission I have made in my adult life.ย ย 

Saturday the 14th of September marked 2 years since I made this admission and my life has been outrageously better since.

If you’re curious about alcoholism or think you may be one, feel free to listen.ย  I am passionate about talking about it, get in touch if you feel like you are stuck in a corner!