After doing an interview with my friend, another person was interested in talking to me about alcoholism.
It’s another long conversation, and there’s a big sound jump after about 8 minutes because we had some tech problems. Sorry for the lack of professional editing.
I decided to keep the whole conversation unedited, so you can get the whole thing, rather than just snippets.
Thank you Lukas for coming onto the show, and sharing part of your life story with so much openness and humility. I really enjoyed the conversation and still am so interested in our ideas of what an alcoholic really is and whether or when it’s time to stop drinking.
I have been talking to a friend of mine about alcoholism for a couple of years now.
In this episode he wanted to test if he is an alcoholic. We spoke at length and did two tests.
The first test is to see if he is a primary alcoholic, which involves drinking 3-5 shots of very strong alcohol to get your heart rate up. If your heart spikes by more than 8 beats per minute it could suggest that you are a primary alcoholic.
The second test involved a questionnaire.
I have quite a few thoughts on the episode, which I will cover in my next podcast.
I hope you all enjoy it and find it insightful. Look forward to hearing what you think as well as any questions or comments you may have.
Today’s podcast is a bit different than usual. It’s a tribute to my friend Calum, who sadly passed away recently.
The podcast is separated in two parts, the first part is some funny stories that Calum created and some of which I was lucky enough to share a part in.
The second part is to do with some of the lessons that I have learnt from knowing him.
This was the 4th podcast I recorded, but I waited for approval from his family before I published it. I say this only in case you’re counting the number of podcasts I’ve published and are wondering why I open saying it’s the 4th one.
I hope you enjoy the stories and hopefully find some life lessons as I have.
Someone asked me to a do a podcast on this topic, so here it is 🙂
The podcast is structured in 2 parts, one is more to do with the person struggling him/herself, and what it might mean to help. The second part is more practical things that you could actually do.
1. It’s not always up to you to be able to help. The person who needs help needs to be WILLING to be helped. The age old saying, you can bring a horse to the water, isn’t a saying for nothing.
2. What it actually means to be willing to help
3. Why you need to take seriously. Don’t pretend to know the answers, it can be very dangerous if you get it wrong.
1. Active listening
2. Don’t make the problem bigger or smaller than it needs to be.
3. Don’t mislabel things, but don’t underestimate the power in labelling things accurately. Labelling is NOT bad, but mislabelling IS!!
4. Don’t give medical advice – some people need anti depressants and some don’t. If a person is depressed (and not drinking ;-)) and taking medication, maybe they just need to switch to different medication. Get a good doctor, not all car mechanics are amazing and not all doctors are amazing. BUT some are incredible 🙂
5. If someone asks you for a specific favour, try to help them as directly as you can, as long as it doesn’t harm them, others or yourself. They may be so troubled that they see no other way. Your act of kindness could mean much more to them then you will ever know.
6. AA specific, if you know someone suffering from alcoholism and can’t talk to them for some or other reason there is a group called al-anon, which is worth going to.